We women have a lot to learn about simplifying our lives. We have to decide what is important and then move along at a pace that is comfortable for us. We have to develop the maturity to stop trying to prove something. We have to learn to be content with what we are." ~Marjorie Pay Hinckley~

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Saturday, August 4, 2012

Not all it's CHALKED up to be.

Sometimes life it not all it's chalked up to be. Like the time Lukas really wanted to bring a cute little girl flowers for her birthday. Yep, he chose flowers. "How gentlemanly" I told him.  He picked out very pretty ones, and was so so excited to give them!As the birthday girl arrived, Lukas went to meet her, with bouquet in hand. She wasn't having it although Lukas tried his darndest to get her to take them. I know, the pictures make it kind of dramatic sad. He really likes her, you see. But hey, no big deal. When life tells you to "Go fly a kite, you find a friend and go fly a kite!"

 It was the first time he'd flown one before and had so much fun running all over that field! It was such a fun birthday party and the kids had a blast... til a minor mishap later occurred when his little red helium filled balloon went to heaven. Literally. There were many tears, and loud wails. It's the ultimate straw to break this calm camel's back,... the only time I've seen such wailing and gnashing of teeth from him is at the loss of a balloon. -sigh- The sense of loss is a hard thing for him to deal with...when things break that cannot be put back together, or are lost that cannot be gotten again. It's interesting to find and understand kids' switches-- the different ones each kid has, that if pushed tip them over the edge of what they can handle. The upside? My kid knows a lot about "helium" and its properties, since it's been the villain on more than one occasion. He's sure a clever boy and we just hold him close and love him. The little girl in the picture right next to Lukas had a little brother who died just a year ago. The boy was three. The mom talked about how it's changed her perspective of parenting. Now she savors the moments more, sweats the small stuff less, and revels in her kid being a kid, and knows no end to the love which she has to give to her. She said she can literally count on her hand (notice there's no 's' at the end) the number of times she's been frustrated with her in the past year. When we see people for who they are without all of our stress, our baggage and our expectations of what WE want, then it takes some selfish scales from our eyes that let us see clearer, appreciate more, and love more fully.

Hug your kiddo today.
And go fly a kite. 
And if a balloon gets lost, just love the screamer :)

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